Bringing Your Ex Back

Why you should reset emotionally after the breakup.

You’ve either had a breakup, or you’re going through one right now, and it’s one of the toughest things in the world to deal with emotionally. We’re wired in a way that when a close relationship gets torn apart, it tears at US, deep within!

Dealing with your emotional energy.

We deal with a great deal of emotional energy in situations that are much smaller than a breakup. Think about how riled up we can get in traffic while driving, or maybe how intertwined our emotions become with a T.V. reality show or a sports team. We often devote a lot of emotional energy to fretting and worrying and getting excited about these things.

Now think about a breakup.

That’s a whole different story. Way bigger emotionally! After the breakup you are so confused, angry, frustrated, heartbroken, and distraught that you feel like you could throw your shoes over your house and run around barefoot on sharp rocks and not care. It’s like you are either going to go absolutely crazy, or you are going to break down completely and do nothing, ever, for the foreseeable future.

Before running out to try to beg your ex for reconciliation, do this.

• Recognize, agree with, and accept the breakup.
• Take a deeeeeep breath, and “let go” of it all. (By “letting go,” you are saying to yourself that you are willing to move on completely if need be.)

When you honestly face your emotions like we’re talking about here, you’ll be in much better shape to try to get your ex back. Your mind will be much more focused and prepared.

Do the hardest thing you can think of, which is facing your emotional fears and dealing with that energy because it will help clear out your emotional RAM, so to speak. Let’s clear the way for the next step.

Dealing With Guilt When You Think The Breakup Was Your Fault.

How Can I Get My Ex Back?

-Avery

So you want your ex back but your afraid of potential rejection (again)?

Let’s cut straight to the chase here on this one. How do you get over the fear of being rejected when you try to get back with your ex? Whatever happens, we don’t want to get humiliated by the ex or get our ego hurt. It least that’s how it seems to us.

Let’s think about this a little bit and see if we can’t come up with a better understanding of the situation.

Bringing Your Ex Back By Letting Go of Your Ex

Sounds weird as heck, I know, but let’s think about a little exercise here for a second. After the breakup, it’s healthy to go through an exercise of “letting go.” You can think of it as sort of an emotional reset to get your ex back.

This does not at all mean that you aren’t going to try to get your ex back, because you are.

After doing this exercise, hopefully you will be more willing to try to do the best thing for you and for your ex. That means that you want the best outcome for your ex, which may or may not include you. (Of course, we want to try to get her back, and we’ll be making our best efforts.)

How You Can Get Your Ex Back!

-Avery

Your Ex Says It Was Your Fault.

Lots of times during breakups the one doing the breaking-up gives crazy reasons for the separation. Sometimes it seems that they are trying to hide something. But other times, we know that a breakup is our fault, and the ex let’s us know it. Big time.

We know it’s our fault, we feel super guilty about it, but we want to make every effort to get back together because we realize what a mistake we’ve made!

Getting Your Ex Back: Where to Start.

We know that many breakups happen due to pride and jealousy. If you’ve done anything at all to spark your lover’s jealousy, it’s likely they will let you know about it. If you persist in whatever your doing that makes them jealous, don’t be surprised when your partner starts to pull away. Pride is our nature, after all.

Start by accepting the breakup. Be honest, but don’t be unnecessarily hard on yourself. In other words, be aware of your mistakes, but also be aware that there’s only so much you can do about it. You can’t go back and undo what has been done, so you might as well let go of that emotional burden.

With humility, you will have a chance of getting back with your ex. First give her some time, then humbly approach her maybe a few weeks later and try to get some sort of casual meeting where you can subtly probe for some of those signs that it’s not “over” yet.

-Avery