Think easy as in simple. Because there is no guaranteed time frame in which you can definitely get your ex back.

Because of the nature of relationships, you have to have two willing parties.

Your ex has to want to get back together with you.

So… then the question becomes, “How do I get my ex to WANT me back?”

There’s a lot of stuff you can do.

Let’s dive into the complexity of relationships.

Think for a second about the breakup and why you think it happened.

  • Did it happen because you are a bad listener?
  • Were you the nagging nuisance that your partner just couldn’t take anymore?
  • Are you the blamer?
  • Were you just too selfish?

These are usually at the bottom of relationship problems.

Of course blame and arguments usually center around stuff life financial problems and other tangible things, but what really bothers us the most is the way our partner communicates or does not communicate with us!

Communication.

The fixer.

Guys like to be the fixers. They see a problem, and they think they know how to fix it, or at least they want to try, so they dive in offering tips and strategies they think will fix whatever they see as broken.

They think that things will just be solved by following a 1,2,3 plan of action and then things will be good to go. Well, not so.

Although their intentions are good, when a guy tries to “fix” his girlfriend or her “problem,” it’s only going to mess things up even more.

What he should do is simply listen, acknowledge, and try to understand what she is going through.

More on that later.

The nagging nuisance.

Women struggle sometimes with arguing and blaming their man instead of doing more appreciating.

Two things that are just HUGELY important feelings for guys:

  • They long to feel respected by the woman in their life.
  • They deeply desire to be appreciated (for what they provide, etc.)

Sometimes all your man hears is nagging nagging, NAGGING.

Try to just STOP nagging for a second and just do something, say SOMETHING to show appreciation and respect.

Your First Step in Getting Back Together With Your Ex.


Acknowledge whatever stage your relationship is at.

If you’ve just had a breakup, acknowledge and recognize it.

Recognize your ex and what they are going through. Try to understand it.

Write a letter expressing what little you understand, in simple humble words.

Tell your ex that you acknowledge the breakup and you respect it, and you respect what her reasons where for the breakup. Don’t argue or try to discuss it at all.

After you do this, you will need to give it some time.

There is nothing that you can force, here. If your ex is willing to start talking again and maybe even going out for coffee or something, she will let you know.

But wait a while, maybe a few weeks before you ask to do anything like that.

Hey, I want you to read some other articles on the site to try to get a little more in the mindset of how to communicate with your ex, and I also want you to read T Dub’s guide, The Magic of Making Up.

It’s a great guide he put together to try to help struggling couples and also those experiencing a breakup and trying to get back together with their ex.

It’s not the longest read, you should be able to dig out the golden nuggets pretty fast.