Breakups are soooo dumb. It hurts like heck to have your relationship torn apart.

The good thing is, every day there are couples getting back together from a breakup.

So why can’t you and your ex be part of those statistics? Bringing your ex back ain’t going to be easy, but if it works, it’s going to be worth it.

So let’s take the smartest path towards reconciliation.

There’s going to be some pretty darn tough challenges along the way.

You’re going to have to leave behind what I call the “Castigation Station,” that place where your ego always goes to pass blame and argue and fight about why you’re RIGHT about everything, darnit!

To “castigate” means to blame and stuff. And when you find yourself at the Castigation Station, you should notice that you have a hard time communicating with people.

Well gee, why would that be?

People aren’t going to listen to you because:

  • You are not willing to listen to them.
  • You think you’re completely right.
  • Even if you are completely right, you’re just not taking the time to try to understand the circumstance of the other. Your partner will START to warm up to listening to you when you show that you are trying to understand their situation and truly listen.

Notice that I said START.

Don’t fall into the super common mistake where you start listening, you start making a little progress, and then you push it too hard, and everything BREAKS AGAIN!

Because… it will.

When you make that breakthrough and figure out how to communicate with your partner by LISTENING and trying to UNDERSTAND THEM, realize what you are doing!

  • You are entering into their world.
  • You are becoming a character in that movie that they’re playing in THEIR mind.

So don’t mess it all up by going back over to your little ego place and rushing them, DARNIT!

Just be willing.

I couldn’t imagine you showing up on this page to read about bringing your ex back if you weren’t willing to do EVERYTHING you could to get your ex back in your arms (or into the arms of  your ex, whichever way you imagine it)!

Commit!


Try to start seeing where you’ve gone wrong in communication with your ex.

Look for ways that you can APPRECIATE your partner. You likely haven’t done much of this for quite some time, but when you make the effort to truly understand the other and appreciate them, a whole new world of communication will open up to you.

That’s just how it works! I didn’t write the rules, it’s the way we operate!

Throughout this site I’ll be doing my best to give advice related to bringing your ex back, relationship communication, stopping a divorce, healing a marriage, generally just making up stuff.

I want to provide the best quality stuff, but I don’t know everything.

I encourage you to visit T Dub Jackson’s site where he offers a guide on The Magic of Making Up. Definitely check it out, but until then, I hope you get a lot of help from the other articles on this site.