Why you should reset emotionally after the breakup.

You’ve either had a breakup, or you’re going through one right now, and it’s one of the toughest things in the world to deal with emotionally. We’re wired in a way that when a close relationship gets torn apart, it tears at US, deep within!

Dealing with your emotional energy.

We deal with a great deal of emotional energy in situations that are much smaller than a breakup. Think about how riled up we can get in traffic while driving, or maybe how intertwined our emotions become with a T.V. reality show or a sports team. We often devote a lot of emotional energy to fretting and worrying and getting excited about these things.

Now think about a breakup.

That’s a whole different story. Way bigger emotionally! After the breakup you are so confused, angry, frustrated, heartbroken, and distraught that you feel like you could throw your shoes over your house and run around barefoot on sharp rocks and not care. It’s like you are either going to go absolutely crazy, or you are going to break down completely and do nothing, ever, for the foreseeable future.

Before running out to try to beg your ex for reconciliation, do this.

  • Recognize, agree with, and accept the breakup.
  • Take a deeeeeep breath, and “let go” of it all. (By “letting go,” you are saying to yourself that you are willing to move on completely if need be.)

When you honestly face your emotions like we’re talking about here, you’ll be in much better shape to try to get your ex back. Your mind will be much more focused and prepared.

Do the hardest thing you can think of, which is facing your emotional fears and dealing with that energy because it will help clear out your emotional RAM, so to speak. Let’s clear the way for the next step.

Dealing With Guilt When You Think The Breakup Was Your Fault.

-Avery