The Emotional Reset You Need In Order To Get Your Ex Back.
Posted on November 30th, 2009 in get my ex back | 2 Comments »
Why you should reset emotionally after the breakup.
You’ve either had a breakup, or you’re going through one right now, and it’s one of the toughest things in the world to deal with emotionally. We’re wired in a way that when a close relationship gets torn apart, it tears at US, deep within!
Dealing with your emotional energy.
We deal with a great deal of emotional energy in situations that are much smaller than a breakup. Think about how riled up we can get in traffic while driving, or maybe how intertwined our emotions become with a T.V. reality show or a sports team. We often devote a lot of emotional energy to fretting and worrying and getting excited about these things.
Now think about a breakup.
That’s a whole different story. Way bigger emotionally! After the breakup you are so confused, angry, frustrated, heartbroken, and distraught that you feel like you could throw your shoes over your house and run around barefoot on sharp rocks and not care. It’s like you are either going to go absolutely crazy, or you are going to break down completely and do nothing, ever, for the foreseeable future.
Before running out to try to beg your ex for reconciliation, do this.
- Recognize, agree with, and accept the breakup.
- Take a deeeeeep breath, and “let go” of it all. (By “letting go,” you are saying to yourself that you are willing to move on completely if need be.)
When you honestly face your emotions like we’re talking about here, you’ll be in much better shape to try to get your ex back. Your mind will be much more focused and prepared.
Do the hardest thing you can think of, which is facing your emotional fears and dealing with that energy because it will help clear out your emotional RAM, so to speak. Let’s clear the way for the next step.
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-Avery
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[...] Sounds weird as heck, I know, but let’s think about a little exercise here for a second. After the breakup, it’s healthy to go through an exercise of “letting go.” You can think of it as sort of an emotional reset to get your ex back. [...]
[...] Express your plan for trying to make things right and get things back where they need to be. Some things to consider: Depending on how long this frustration has been going on, your partner might have started forming bonds with another potential lover. This is why you need to be urgent. Get real about the situation. Make a conscious admission about whatever your faults have been. If you’ve been too busy, you need to take some things out of your schedule so that you can spend more time with your partner. If you’ve been dealing with a huge amount of stress, then level with your partner and ask for help in dealing with the stress, as opposed to trying to handle it yourself and becoming more distant. Whatever the situation seems to be, whatever your fears, meet them head on! You may also want to read about resetting emotionally. [...]